Each week during our Proverbs series we will be posting follow up resources to help you further reflect on and apply the word preached on Sunday.

SERMON SUMMARY – Proverbs has more to say on our speech than any other single subject, and for good reason, we talk a lot. One study says we average 16,000 words each day. So paying attention to our words helps us pay attention to our heart. Jesus said, “out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks.” The words we speak have consequences, but simply trying to manage the bad words and multiply the good words does not cut it. Our speech will reveal if we are presently trusting God with our heart, or if we are deviating from that. We need to pay attention to our hearts, and we need each other to do so effectively. Jordan preached a sermon on friendship the previous week which lays the groundwork for exploring hearts of our friends. If you missed either sermon, you can listen to them by clicking here.

SCRIPTURE TO MEDITATE ON THIS WEEK – Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life. Proverbs 4:23


  1. Share an illustration from this past week when the words you spoke were clearly connected with what you were dwelling on in your heart (good or bad). What was the result? How did that reflect the truth in Proverbs 18:21 “Death and Life is in the tongue”?
  2. Out of the list of warnings and wisdom that were shared from Proverbs, which one(s) resonated with you, and why?
  3. The sheer volume of words we are exposed to on a daily basis (100,000) will have an impact on us. What is the primary source of words you are exposed to (sports/news/social media/entertainment/etc.), and what influence might they be having on you?
  4. Proverbs 20:5 says the purpose in a man’s heart is like deep water, but a man of understanding will draw it out.” Who do you have in your life that is helping draw out the deep waters of your heart? What does that look like on a regular basis? If you don’t have someone, who could be that for you, and how will you pursue them to invite them into that kind of role in your life? What might that look like?
  5. What is God saying to you in light of this discussion? What needs to start, stop, or change for you to cultivate deep, lifelong friendship?

Need pastoral prayer, help or care? If you’d like to discuss this more with one of our pastors, please email [email protected] and we would love to set-up a time for someone to meet with you.

Recommended Resources:
War of Words: Getting To The Heart Of Your Communication Struggles – Paul David Tripp